• tabarnaski@sh.itjust.works
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    17 hours ago

    The sad truth in this world is that, apart from your close friends, your partners and your parents (if you’re lucky), nobody cares too much about you in general. This can be devastating, but it can also be liberating.

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      16 hours ago

      I mean, I think more people than that do care about your immediate a safety and well being. If you collapse to the floor in the middle of your bowling league, they will call an ambulance. And if you break down on the side of the road, odds are someone will stop to help you out eventually.

      But if your problem is “I’m sad”, then… what am I supposed to do about that?

      • timbuck2themoon@sh.itjust.works
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        7 hours ago

        That and in your first example you’re calling for professional help because you yourself are unable to help and that person can’t help themselves.

        For depression that person can get help themselves (though of course that can be difficult to get the nerve to see a therapist/doctor) and anyone else, again, is not really qualified to treat/help you. Hence the advice in the meme.

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      16 hours ago

      The sad truth in this world is that apart from your close friends, your partners and your parents (if you’re lucky) nobody cares too much about you in general.

      I’ve learned that if I open my mouth and admit I’m struggling or a little depressed, the relationship ends very quickly. Even if you aren’t noticeably depressed, it doesn’t affect them at all and they only know it because you admitted to it, it’s like they think it’s contagious. Now, no matter what it’s big happy smile and I AM ABSOLUTELY GREAT LIFE IS GOOD HOW ARE YOU? My therapist is the only person I will ever tell when I’m having a rough time and even then sometimes it’s really hard to admit it and not keep pretending everything is good.

    • Nima@leminal.space
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      16 hours ago

      i stopped sharing or trying to reach out a long time ago. its much easier to keep people around if I just do unhealthy “habits” and try and hide evidence than risk losing more people.

      i trust nobody anymore. safer.