DaGeek247

I appreciate all the work you put into writing about and belittling my experiences. Please reconsider your priorities.

I’m autistic. More importantly I’m also empathetic; too many people have told me that women don’t appreciate being approached by strange people except in very specific circumstances. It’s not just a person risk vs personal reward calculation. It’s also a risk of how whoever I approach may be affected as well. It’s a calculation of what the reward actually is. Getting a date could be fun, but I’m not so sure it’s worth ruining someone (or several someone’s) else’s evening to obtain it. I’m also very sure that the amount of times I would have to try, in order to learn how to flirt, is much higher than a neurotypical person’s would be.

Just because you think that learning to flirt with people is a skill worth having does mean it is one I think is one worth having, independant of any of the risks or realities of what learning to flirt might actually entail.

this is unreasonable.

I’ll thank you not to decide my experiences for me.

It’s a skill where fucking it up has the possible consequence of being labeled a creep, or worse. Makes it a lot harder to get into when participating could ruin your life. Many people have written off flirting / approaching in person entirely because of this.

Note the “possible”. Fear means people are less likely to do something, not that there is some sort of assessment on the likelyhood of a risk actually happening.

That another way that healthy relationships can work, yes. But yours is not the only way.

It is in a healthy relationship.