• ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    7 days ago

    Then she should tell me that, ironically, because I’m neurodivergent and can’t read my own mind sometimes, let alone hers.

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      7 days ago

      There’s nothing to read into. Nothing to interrupt. She’s literally asking to spend time with you.

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        7 days ago

        That’s what “nope” means? I thought it just meant “nope.”

        I figure something like “No I just want to cuddle with you and have a nice chat” would be a more descriptive way to say “nope,” maybe we should look into that.

        If “she wants to talk to me” then she should use more than one word.

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          Neurotypicals communicate the “i just want to cuddle” bit through body language and tone. Of course, being neurodivergent, we dont see that. Then they get mad because they cant read our minds, thought they were being clear (because it was to people like them) and assume we’re blowing them off

          What we have here is a failure to communicate

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            That’s not being neurotypical. That’s just having poor communication skills.

            Based on the actual women in my life, “blame partner for own communication failures” is the divergence rather than the norm. Regardless of what shallow media portrays.

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              That’s not being neurotypical. That’s just having poor communication skills.

              I won’t even bother replying to him, that’s what I’d have said, thank you.

              Based on the actual women in my life, “blame partner for own communication failures” is the divergence rather than the norm.

              YMMV. In mine it’s about a 50/50 split, probably edging on the “blame others” side. I do also know guys that expect you to read their minds too though, mostly middle managers, and plenty men and women who can’t take responsibility for any of their faults/actions (which is in essence the same issue, just broadened), it’s not really a gendered issue, it seems like there’s a general accountability problem these days.