Wow that sounds like an insane relationship. I guess she only really dared being herself after you moved in together? Hopefully you managed to get out without too many scars on your soul.

I reckon people have different opinions on “what spending time together” entails - ranging from

• being in the same room doing different stuff
• Sitting next to each other doing different stuff
• sitting next to each other watching the same movie
• Talking together Etc.