No, I want truth and critical discourse.

Which to the vast majority of users here, is trash. Because they see the world in one dimension and can’t acknowledge other people’s differences as anything more than evil that must be stamped out.

Which for you, you can’t have truth or discussion without shaming other people I guess? Hence your need to frame my talking points as shaming people and my view must be very dark and awful.

I see my views as positive, liberating, and optimistic. Because I think cutting out the subject feely weely fictional bullshit of life is what makes it worth living, and yeah I understand for other people, that is terrifying and scary and awful, because for them all life is is the feely weely bullshit and they are terrified of a world that isn’t entirely composed of it, especially people like Trump.

I’d go so far to argue most of the posters on here are far more like Trump, than they are different than him, in that they want a world that is nothing more than a mirror-reflection of their own egoistical assumptions, and is totally allergic to any objectivity or truth that may upset them, and think any such idea or person espousing such idea is EVIL and BAD.

you realize that your yum is someone else yuck, right?

and them reporting that, and ruining your day, is your problem, not theirs.

I don’t like sports man. Every sports fan I meet and I say I’m not into sports, acts like I kicked them in the kidney and I’m the asshole. It never occurs to them that… maybe other people just don’t like sports and that’s fine and it’s not a personal insult against them as a person.

But please lecture me more how my perspective ruins your day or something, because you only want to think happy thoughts and regard critical thoughts as heresy or something.

‘be like me so i feel good about myself’

that’s egotism.

these behaviors are already normal and normalized the fact you think they aren’t is so bizarre. people are nice to each other all the time, except on lemmy.

just because you don’t see shit doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. but true that internet weirdos seem to think the only thing that does exist is the doomerism oppression of the world they constantly upvote and cultivate.

Every sentence there is about you making yourself feel good.

None if it, is about how the other people feel.

no. the fact you want someone to notice robs the good deed of it’s goodness.

because you only did it for your own selfish gain. you’re so selfish that you can’t conceive of doing good without it being recognized as it’s own reward.

But don’t worry, that’s ‘normal’. in our society. in our society, doing something without it having value to yourself is considered a mental illness, because we have so internalized capitalism and greed, you can’t even conceive of not gaining something from doing something for someone else

and hence why we live in brutally transactional world, and why everyone cries about how relationships and community is falling apart… because they don’t see any point unless THEY get something out of it.

How is any of this bleak self congratulatory bullshit whimsy?

whimsy would be a post about how a butterfly landed on your dogs nose and it sneezed it off.

No. You don’t.

You’re not a good person if you need it to be acknowledged by others. That’s precisely what leads to perverse performative behaviors, and stupid shit like volentourism, where everyone is being exploited to generate a image for the customer that they have done something selfless and good for someone else, when all it’s done is line the pockets of the people who run those orgs.

Frankly, I quite a volunteer org two years ago because they decided the good they were doing had to be acknowledged publicly, and they should get money, and the people involved should get a cut of that money… oh and we should only help the ‘most unfortunate’ people because that will score us more points/money… that’s no longer volunteering. That’s your typical capitalism mindset in a non-profit coating. Don’t do things for people unless you can get maximum return from your effort…

things people have took me I’m gay for:

reading
cooking
cleaning
being decently dressed (not even well-dressed)
having skin care products
using conditioner on my hair
driving a sedan/compact car
playing nintendo or jrpg games
enjoying classic music/opera/theater/ art & foreign films owning a cat
drinking cocktails/lattes/milkshakes
riding/racing bicycles
not playing team ballsports

the definition of straight man is very very narrow for some folks, basically drive a giant truck, be unable to take care of yourself, and be into sports and action pop cuture, rock and roll/rap, and only ever do ‘basic’ things.

if you do anything outside of the box, you’re gay. because ‘normal straight men’ don’t do those things, and if they do, they only do it to impress women or something. like I can go to the opera with my girlfriend and hate it, but if i go myself and enjoy it I’m gay.