Hello,

I’ve been self hosting Nextcloud for the last half a year, and my family has been using Nextcloud Talk to communicate. However, as cool it is overall, we suffer from a lot of missed messages. I’ve been keeping an eye on (and contributing to) the Android app, but even with all the updates, it seems like they can’t quite figure out the issue with notifications not appearing consistently. My wife is fed up, so I’m looking for alternatives.

It seems like Matrix is the next logical one to try, but the Android apps have pretty poor reviews. A lot of the self hosted messengers also seem to be more like Slack replacements, rather than focused on family & friend use.

Has anyone had a good experience with a self hosted messenger for family use?

Thanks!

  • utjebe@reddthat.comEnglish
    2·
    4 days ago

    I’d love to run matrix but is seem/what I’m reading PITA to run.

    I’m considering Zulip and Mattermost.

    • Alavi@programming.devEnglish
      3·
      4 days ago

      You have bo idea how much of a pain in the ass mattermost is. Basically corporate trying to leech off of opensource. I decided to make it the messenger in our org 3 4 years ago. But I might move away from it if it starts acting up more.

      • wilo108@lemmy.mlEnglish
        1·
        4 days ago

        I run Mattermost successfully for a small-ish academic professional org, and tbh it’s been simple, straightforward, and really pretty good. I live in constant fear of the ever-nearing and inevitable rug-pull, though – they do seem to regard the open-source/self-hostable side as something they do on a minimum-effort basis only because they have to, so I would be hesitant to go down this road if I was starting again.

        • Alavi@programming.devEnglish
          1·
          3 days ago

          The last update was obviously vibe coded. At least all the UI was fucked up. All sizings were messed up, colors were inverted.

          And don’t get me started on continuously moving pre-existing community features into “paid only”. First boards was almost deprecated, then playbooks.

          • wilo108@lemmy.mlEnglish
            2·
            10 hours ago

            Yeah, I don’t disagree. I’m still on the 10.x branch (will need to upgrade to the 11.x branch in a few weeks, after the annual conference is done), so I didn’t experience the UI fuck up, but it sounds ominous… sigh…