• velma@sh.itjust.works
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    Her husband forced himself on her while she was still recovering from birth. There’s no way there were so many children so close without that happening.

    Y’all can disagree with me, but I’m right. There’s no way this particular woman could’ve healed from birth enough to safely get pregnant again that many times. Marital rape wasn’t even against the law back then. It was normalized.

    Sex would not have been enjoyable for her immediately after birth.

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      ~~You are most likely right, but given there are trad wife’s now adays, it isn’t impossible that some women wanted that. And unless there are more specific information from her family on her choices, chances are, we will never know. And as much as I don’t want to deny past sexual violence, I also don’t want to deny agency. ~~

      After writing it I realize it is a shit opinion because even the most trad wifeliest today, with more resources and healthcare do not go for so many children. And I now agree with you fully.

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        My ex’s best friend is one of… 11? 12? I forgot. Probably more by now. Both parents of that family are weird but as far as I can tell it’s mostly the mom who wants more but… I’m not entirely sure if she actually wants more children or she just likes getting parental pay which is 18 months in this country. On 12 kids that’s 18 years that she hasn’t had to go to work. Don’t think the woman in the picture got 18 months

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        Yeah it’s not even so much how many children she has here (even though that’s an issue all on it’s own obviously), it’s how close they are in age.

        • kind of both Irish twins are not rare among every society, but having to move my mouse pointer to count so many children so close together it.

          Although I am willing to bet a photo with cousins too rather than just one set of siblings. because I don’t want to belief that said family is even possible.

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              While doing genealogy research I found it quite common in rural norway in the 18th and 19th century for women to have a child every two years until their early to mid fifties. Sometimes they’d have as many as 18 children.

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      Damn, the amount of people here who don’t understand where the phrase “keep em barefoot and pregnant” comes from…

      Literally “if you keep them pregnant constantly, they will have no need for shoes because they will never leave the home.”

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        There’s a lot of people who are uncomfortable with examining their long-held beliefs and biases.

        Like that women like this wanted to have that many babies and that husbands have a right to sex with their wives no matter what.

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      You’re most likely right. Though, she is holding twins in the picture I think. Depending on genetics, it’s possible that a few of the other siblings are also twins. But that’s still a hell of a lot of pregnancies, and twin pregnancies are generally harder and riskier than singles, so… yeah that’s not really any consolation.

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      That seems like an extreme place to go that would only seem justified if you can’t imagine wanting a seemingly ridiculous number of kids. So I’ll offer my perspective.

      I grew up with an unusually large number of women in my extended family and heard them talk a lot about enjoying or wanting big families. Many of my cousins went on to have as many kids as they had hoped for originally, and they continue to have children, as if it’s a competition. I don’t get this, because I never wanted children of my own. But all I have ever heard is the woman’s side.

      My impression in every case is that, if one of them is setting the agenda on the child front, it’s invariably my cousins. I’m not sure how that conversation goes, but these women are all conventionally attractive, and I would guess it doesn’t take much convincing to get unprotected sex from their guy if that’s what they want.

      Long short, I’m not too worried about my cousins being tricked into pregnancy. I do sometimes worry that maybe the men (who have meek personalities by comparison, and look more tired each time I see them) might feel like they weren’t given much say, which could lead to relationship problems later, but it’s not really my business.

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        You completely missed the point about the children being so close in age.

        It was dangerous and painful for this woman.

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          I didn’t address the point because a lot of my family’s old photos look like this. Twins become more common later. But also i expect the actual age gaps represented in this photo might not be so close. The children on the right are likely not children at all.

          Also genetics has to play some part here. Women in my family have relatively few complications in childbirth, and recover more quickly than usual along with their libido apparently, so just a few months between birth and pregnancy is common.

          I’m just trying to offer a plausible alternative explanation that I can vouch for so you don’t have to imagine this nightmare.

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            My father was the fourteenth child out of sixteen siblings. I’m very familiar with this type of family setup.

            Regardless of women who want big families, 16 children is abuse. Both of the mother’s body and of the children as human beings.

            I’ve given birth before as well. It is dangerous to have pregnancies back to back.

            Women didn’t have nearly as much choice back then.

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              I fully agree with you re: most of your points, and don’t necessarily disagree otherwise, just trying to not expect the worst of people I don’t know based on a photo <3

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                  And likewise, I appreciate your vigilance looking out for others who may be oppressed, where bluntness is so often overdue.